Just returned from my date with Daddy Warbucks. It was great!
I feel kinda bad because I misunderstood the plans. I thought he was going to pick me up and then drive us to Huntington Beach, which is about ten minutes south of where I live. But it turns out, he had to drive down from Malibu Canyon (1.5 hours away) to my house, pick me up, and then we drove up to Pasadena (at least an hour) to Huntington Gardens!! Then he dropped me back off at home (1+ hour), and then he drove back up to his house in the canyons (1.5+ hrs).
Yikes! I just assumed Huntington Gardens was in Huntington Beach, but it was in Pasadena. So he drove A LOT of extra hours for me. All in all, he spent over 5 hours in his car for our date! And no complaints. He thought I understood and wanted it that way anyway. What a trooper! And a gentleman. If I'd known it was up in Pasadena, I would have suggested I take the train up and he could pick me up from the station. I think he (unlike Control Freak) would be totally cool with that, and probably would have preferred that over all that driving he did!
At the end of the night, he gave me another hug. I felt like he should get something for his troubles, so then I gave him a hand job. JUST KIDDING! I gave him a bag of trail mix we'd talked about earlier. It's the most perfect mix in the world, and he really liked it.
He's a really nice guy. He talks to his family every day. His sister was blowing up his phone while we were out. I don't get a player vibe from him at all. And for what it's worth, his resume is pretty impressive. He's accomplished so much. He's published books, is a professor, a political pundit and commentator, produced a documentary, and more. A bit of a Renaissance Man, if you will. We talked about our plans for the summer. Usually he travels on hiatus, and when I told him I was still looking for a summer job, he asked if I would be free to travel. I replied that right now my summer is wide open, so who knows. It seemed to be a hint, but we both kept it light.
The gardens were beautiful. There were desert gardens and tropical gardens and Japanese gardens. A lot of beautiful plant life. It was very interesting. I had a nice time. It's hard to tell if we'll have a physical connection, though, since we haven't done anything more than a hug. There is an undercurrent there, so I think we'll be fine. He's a tall drink of water. A lot of women looked at him, and one who did then glared at me, so that was kind of funny.
I think Daddy Warbucks may be worth the ride (no pun intended). His willingness to drive several hours to spend time with you is telling. His intentions are sincere. The physical connection is vital though…Even though the verbal communication is apparently there…I think more physical communication needs to occur to solidify if he can be a potential steady in your life...BTW, the hand job reference is hilarious. I have so many male friends that tell me they feel that if they pay for dinner and drive to spend time with a woman they’ve dated over a few weeks that they are entitled to that service.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous: Ha ha, totally. What a champ, huh? That's a lot to do! He's SOOO nice, and seems very genuine. Yeah, not sure if the physicality will happen soon. He knows I'm seeing someone else, so I think maybe he doesn't want to get too attached or isn't sure how to move forward, given the "third party." Also, when he came over, I still had the flowers Show Biz gave me on the counter (the card was stashed away in a drawer, so I could have conceivably bought them for myself), so I think he's trying to feel out where my head is a little more before making any moves. He seems like a very patient guy.
ReplyDeleteHe's probably also seeing other people, too. He told me a funny story about how his family is trying to set him up with his cousin! She's not blood; a previous kid from a woman's marriage to his uncle, but still they grew up together. He's like NO WAY. Funny!
Yeah, a lot of guys expect a hand job or something. But whatever. That's on them. I'm not their whore.
I'm halfway through and your comment right before giving him the trail mix was laugh-out-loud funny. Didn't see that one coming! And for the other anonymous commenter I say hello and whoa :) ... Is that really what some people realistically (or unrealistically) expect? If someone so much as implied something like that, I'd be out the door faster than lightning.
ReplyDeleteYou know what, nobody gives anyone mix tapes anymore and maybe not even mix CDs (although there's the expensive option of giving someone a mix iPod - I would love that gesture, even though I already have an iPod - I'd gladly just copy the contents onto mine and give back the Pod), but you gave him *trail mix* :) Sweet!
Your blog is such a fun read. Keep up the classy!
Jesus. I choked on what I was eating when I read the hand job line. Ha! He sounds nice, but it doesn't seem like there's a connection, in the way that you write about him. Is there?
ReplyDeletewell, now i'm rooting for daddy warbucks . . . and not just coz he's a prof!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Anonymous! I miss the good ol' days of mixed tapes! Those were the best. I still make mixed cd's for a few friends. We mail them to each other. It's still the best gift in the world! Trail MIX is a close second ; )
ReplyDeleteAvitable: Gotcha! I never thought I could say anything that would shock you, so I feel very proud right now ; ) You have a keen eye, oh wise one... he and I have an e-mail connection. His writing really gets me. But in person, it's not so apparent... not sure what's going on there...
Z: Yeah, he's a pretty great guy. Very genuine and sweet. I'd be lucky to have either guy, really!