I thought I'd be able to wake up and make a clear decision about Night Man after a good night's sleep. Unfortunately I only got about half my usual sleep hours, and am even more tired than usual. But a few hours was all I needed to realize that there was just no question involved. Who was I trying to kid? You all know it's lights out for Night Man! I know this. And I know you know this. I guess the actress in me likes dramatic pause and suspense, but this is really a no-brainer. He's a really nice guy... but he's also a booger-bubble blowing incompatible kisser. Case closed!
There were other reasons why I think we didn't work out. I decided to focus on those in my break-up e-mail (yeah, keepin' it classy), and not the more superficial reasons I have. My email to him:
Hey Night Man,
It's really hard for me to say this, but I think I'm going to go in another direction. I've really enjoyed my time with you and getting to know you, but I don't think we have a lot in common. I've noticed that as our dates progress, I have less and less to say and share with you... I didn't think our lack of similar interests would be an issue in the beginning, but I'm beginning to see that it is. I wish you the best of luck and know that a great guy like you will find someone who deserves you and all that you have to offer. Thank you for being so good to me.
Best wishes,
LB Woman
Oh, and one thing I forgot to mention. He told me on our last date that his son broke his hand last weekend. I asked him how and he said he was "playing around" with him (like wrestling, I gathered) and the two of them fell and they landed on his son's hand wrong. Maybe it's just me not understanding men (again. Big surprise there!), but I don't know any grown man who wrestles that rough with his teenage kid who's rather slight and half his age. I guess accidents happen, but it just struck me as weird. Especially since in a previous date he told me his ex-wife calls him from her house every now and then and he has to cross the street to stop his sons from fighting. I guess it gets a little violent. I wonder if this is learned behavior, and if so, from whom...?! Know what I mean? Kinda weird there. Dunno. It's probably just me, but it struck me as odd and off. Either way, that's over and done with.
Tomorrow night is drinks with Gallagher. I'm so tired. I really need to gather up some energy. It might help if I go to bed now...
I don't think there's anything wrong with the wrestling. If he's a teen, he's probably tougher than you think and things can get rough pretty easily.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, definitely good that you dumped him. It needed to be done.
Nice break up letter. I might make a copy of it for future reference, I think it would make a nice break up form letter. It doesn't attack or get too personal, but it get the point across.
ReplyDeleteAvitable: Yeah, you're probably right. My brothers used to wrestle all the time, so I shouldn't even think twice about that.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I feel so much better now that I'm free of him.
Booga: Thanks... yeah, I wanted to be honest and yet pin the onus on me so that there was no argument he could make, and also so that he wouldn't feel bad. I'm the one who couldn't think of things, and running out of things to say, etc.... not him.