Daddy Warbucks is starting to get on my nerves...
He texted me yesterday at 6:50 a.m. (he knows I get up early for work), while I was trying to get out the door. He was trying to have a text conversation, which I really don't have time for in the morning... I'm usually scrambling around trying to make it out of the house. I tried to be patient about it because a) I probably put that pressure on myself. I should have just ignored the texts until I had time to answer them, and b) he had some really great news he wanted to share about getting good feedback from a potential publisher.
In our texts, he asked me when he could see me again. I suggested this Sunday (we'd already decided days ago to meet either Saturday or Sunday), and he said he hoped he could, but he might have to go to a graduation for a family member this weekend. I think he was playing one of his little games that I thought he had finished doing. He was obviously expecting me to say, "Well, then, keep me posted," or something like that. But hell no! I'm a busy woman, and I can't turn down other options/ plans/ invitations because he can't make a decision and wants to pull out and string me along AFTER we already made plans. This is annoying to me because we decided on like Tuesday that we would do something this weekend. He could have told me at that time that the weekend wasn't an option, or that one of the days wasn't an option, but he didn't. I've thought all week that we were all good to go. But it turns out that the whole weekend might be a wash. If this family thing just came up, he should have said that. And even if it did, it sounds like his overbearing sisters and mother might be behind it, which is a whole other headache I don't want to deal with (a mama's boy who hasn't cut the umbilical chord- fun). I could go on forever about how passive aggressive and weird our whole interaction was, but I have to get ready for work.
If you're wondering, I just replied something like, "Alright, well maybe next weekend then. Gotta run. Have a great day!" It might have been too abrupt or cold, but I'd hinted ten minutes earlier in the middle of our texting that I was running late for work, but he plowed right ahead with all his crap.
I can see that this really isn't going to work unless he learns how to act right. I just know that he's going to call on Sunday, asking if we're still on. But when he calls, sniffing around for a date, I'll have to say, "Oh no! I totally thought you were going to your family thing. I know how important they are to you, so I made other plans. Maybe next weekend?" Even if I'm not doing a damn thing, that's the deal. I will not see him this weekend. I will not be toyed with like that. He will learn this or he will move on. I don't really care which one.
Sorry, but it kind of sounds like you're so much more into Mr Show Biz, so do you think it might be possible that maybe that's *part* of the reason why you're getting kind of irritated with this other guy (besides the stringing along thing)? Or is it just me? You did mention that you have a really strong connection with Mr Show Biz.
ReplyDeleteHave a great weekend.
Oh DW and his juvenile games!
ReplyDeleteI think your line " He will learn this or he will move on. I don't really care which one." says it all. The fact that you don't care if he stays or leaves suggests (to me) that you're not invested in him. I think if Mr. Show Biz had texted you that same message, you would have been annoyed but possibly still open to meeting him on Sunday if his plans opened up. Just a hunch. If you're not feeling Daddy, you might as well save yourself (and him) the time and grief and drop him like a hot potato.
ReplyDeleteHi Anonymous: possibly, but probably not. I still like Daddy Warbucks, even though I like Mr. Show Biz more... nothing is set in stone, though, so I still want to see how things go with Warbucks...
ReplyDeleteBooga: Exactly! I knew you'd understand!
Kara: You're right... I'm not that invested in him... but I can't think of a reason to break up with him if he acts right. I do enjoy being with him... for the most part. I have some issues with him, but am not ready to cut ties if he behaves well.
Well, see, that's why I like Mr. Show Biz so much... he's very thoughtful and values my time as much as his. He's a planner and I'm a planner, so we plan way ahead of time. If for some reason he pulled that, I would react the same way. I don't like it when people break plans and then string me along in the hopes that things might happen. Maybe is no to me, until we're in an exclusive, committed relationship. Because if I were still on match, I'd just accept another date for this weekend if he's being wishy-washy.